Wednesday, September 24, 2014

How I Almost Killed Us

Once upon a time, we were planning to move. I had just had a baby and my hubby was an over the road driver. Every weekend, we'd head down south 2 hours to spend time with him in the new apartment we were slowing moving into. Having just had a baby, my bio clock was waaaay off and sleep was a coveted thing for me.

It was on the drive home that my body was wrung dry of sleep and my hubby suggested that I stay and let the kids miss school that Monday; it was Sunday evening. Not wanting them to miss, I decided to drive anyway.

I fought Mr. Sandman throwing grit into my eyes from the time I left, and about an hour and a half into the drive, I started nodding! My 14 year old son, sitting shotgun, had the strongest impression to look at me. Strange that a teenager would even care to look at me when he could be playing on my cell, right?

Well, as it turns out, he caught me with my eyes closed.

"Mom!" he said, clutching my arm. I opened my eyes and saw that we were heading into the V where the exit ramp splits from the highway and it was buffered by a bunch of orange construction barrels. I gasped (I only had about 3 seconds to make a choice), and swerved into the exit ramp and safely got off.

How lucky we were that no one was behind us. How idiotic it was for me to *not* listen to my hubby and kids to stay one more night.

As I write this, I feel shame that I didn't listen to everyone when they urged me to stay, but my drive to get my kids home for school the next day overwrote it all. I will never again feel bad to miss school if it comes right down to it because my family comes first!

Wednesday, September 17, 2014

Help keep Babies out of the Dumpster

Did you know that one of Project Cuddle's many rescued babies had been adopted by its Founder and CEO, Debbe Magnusen? Yes, Emily Magnusen was a rescue baby, here is her heartfelt story. I had asked for her permission to share her story because of how poignant and important this is, and she would love for anyone to do so as well.

"My birthmother was a drug addict and prostitute ... she wanted to abort me because she thought I would be a vegetable"

"Most, if not all of my friends, should know that I am adopted. Not all of you know my story.

My birthmother was a drug addict and prostitute. She told my adoptive mom, Debbe Magnusen, that she wanted to abort me because she thought I would be a vegetable. My mom told her not to that there [are] alternatives to her situation and here I am today, healthy and alive, thanks to her.

But my point that I want to get across is not everyone knows that there are options out there, that is why with this tragic event* that has struck so close to home, we need to get the word out there that there are options and and safer alternatives to baby abandonment--I'm living proof.

Go to to learn about these alternatives and get the word out there. My mom is the founder and CEO and she has helped girls in every situation. There is no judgement and she can help. She has rescued over 600 babies and counting ... Instead of spreading mean and hateful words, let's step above that and spread knowledge ... If you have any questions about volunteering ... you can go to the link I shared above."

*Tuesday morning, an infant was discovered in a garbage receptacle outside the birthmother's home. The birthmother and Emily are friends.

400,000 women in the US alone hide their pregnancies every year because of fear of a violent partner, rejection, disappointing others, religion, financial, cultural, shame of rape, etc.

Out of these pregnancies and according to reported incidences, over 20,000 babies are abandoned  each year--and those are the ones who have been found; because of the nature of the secret pregnancy, many babies go on unreported and die.

Because of organizations such as PROJECT CUDDLE, fewer babies die in trash bins, rest rooms, out in the weather and women no longer suffer in silence as well as with unassisted deliveries in homes throughout the country. The Safe Haven Laws allows women to give up their babies without judgment, without name.

Project Cuddle has saved over 750 babies from abandonment in the US and into Canada since 1996.

Because of my passion for babies and protecting them, I have written a book first person of a girl who unwittingly became pregnant and is terrified of what she will do. I wrote Baby's Breath so as to help spread this knowledge Emily is referring to.

Hi, my name is Jessica and I am 16. I had sex with Joshua. I never thought I'd end up pregnant and now I am terrified. I've heard of babies found in dumpsters. I am better than that. I will make sure someone finds him first before the cold does.

Wednesday, September 10, 2014

If You Found a Diamond as BIG as Your 2 Hands ...

In the dark of the night, a mysterious light streaks across the black sky and hits the ground with a glowing impact. A lone peasant and his dog investigate and are stunned to see a gift from Heaven. Because of this object’s very nature, this man delivers it in good faith to the Abbey where the monks are restless and poor from lack of donations. This is when the abbot is inspired to use the celestial rock’s beauty to gain control, but soon, it spins out of control and turns into something ugly.

As I read Mirror of the Soul, I easily became lost in the pages as the many characters endure faith-testing trials. Some fail miserably, some hang by the proverbial thread while for others, it’s not a question of if neither when.

My favorite part is each time Morgan mentions the trio of best friends who are bored teenagers as they roam the village, getting into things they shouldn’t. Unbeknownst to them, they accidentally unravel the deep secret of the abbey.

J. Lloyd Morgan is one of my favorite authors! He has the knack, the ability to get into the hearts and minds of the characters and breathes into them as they jump to life on the pages right before my eyes. He never fails to weave a complicated line of excitement with intrigue and romance along with injustice and justice locking head-to-head as he does in The Mirror of the Soul. I love the way his mind works.

NOTE: The author provided a free copy of this book which has had no sway in my review.

Monday, September 8, 2014

Remember Tina Downey #LifeisGood

In memory of Tina Downey, hosted by the A to Z Team

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In honors to the dear Tina Downey, here is my tribute, my sunflower.
Because Tina loved flowers...

update: As Susan Gourley had said, replying to a stream of wonderful posts sharing the same heart can be difficult to comment on! Like Susan, I would love if you could share with me, and in Tina's honor, how life is good! Thank you!

Wednesday, September 3, 2014

#IWSG Are you Afraid?

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Welcome back, my favorite IWSG palz! I am a bit nervous about posting anything about this because I'm not sure if it's in bad taste, but here it goes...

Once upon a time, before Darkspell released and while I was still working on it, I was suddenly hit with a severe case of writers block. So I decided to focus on others and reached out and started helping more than usual during my downtime. I reviewed, beta read, alpha read, critiqued, blogged, guest posted, helped spotlight others, etc. Finally, after a few months, my Muse awoke from his hibernation and I finally finished off my book. Yay!

I then submitted my book and my publisher advised me to find myself some endorsers. So I backtracked and asked those whom I helped and many of them were willing! There was one author in particular who felt it necessary to lecture me. He said that I don't just ask people to endorse my book, but there needs to be a history between us of helping out. I thought, "That's what I'd been doing these past few months, was helping out others like crazy." Needless to say, he made me feel bad.

I noticed over the years people are hesitant at endorsing books (I understand you need to feel comfortable endorsing any book and that's something any author should allow), and since there is never a workshop at Writers Conferences on how to gain an endorser, I am somewhat at a loss on how to actually obtain them.

Author Deirdra Eden feels the same. She says "IT is SOOOO hard to get endorsements. Authors for the most part are really hard on each other and act like they are competition. The thing is, books are a consumable. Think about that. I talked to a kid who read my book in half a day and I was like ...'Okay it took me 16 years to write.' If authors got this, they would rally around each other as allies and not enemies. I sent out like 100 requests to authors and only 5 came back and said yes and some wanted strings attached. pathetic. 

So I decided I was going to get moms and dads and kids and teachers to endorse my book. I found those endorsements to be WAY more powerful than endorsements from famous authors."

What is your process in requesting endorsements? Are you afraid to endorse another author? Do you feel threatened?