Wednesday, March 16, 2011

Self Sabotaging

The road ahead feels unsure, rocky and precarious. I know I can do it, I know I can! I've made it this far!

I am preparing one of my manuscripts for submission and the hardest part is for me to take courage and do it. I am afraid of the what ifs, you know, the little devil on my shoulder telling me that I can't?

How do you do it?



  1. Ask the little demon, "I can't do *what* exactly?"

    He might say something like, "Can't get published! narnarnar!"

    And you say, "That might be true. I don't know if I can get published, and you don't know if I can get published. But I *can* do what I've already done, which is quite a lot. I can also do the *next* thing to be done. I can double-check my work to make it the best it can be, and I can submit it. And that will be success enough for this moment."

    And he will say, "narnarnar*grumble*narnarnar"

    Because demons on shoulders hate it when you are content, take things one step at a time, and remind yourself that making your happiness dependent on expectations is never a good idea.

    Absolutely. Hate it.

  2. So long us it is a negative not listen to it!!I have checked out your blog for the first time and it is great! Therefore go ahead with your mission,and if the "if's" come about, know that you have one fan behind your back me.:):) BTW-Thanks for following my blog.

  3. When I'm having these moments, I try to remember that while it can be scary, even more scary is the idea of giving up. Imagine looking BACK on your life and going "I really wish I had dared to try..."

    While there may be many reasons your doubts tell you to not try, because you won't succeed, etc., the logical argument is that there's no point NOT trying.

  4. So what if you don't get published.? It's not exactly life threatening and if you don't who is going to condemn you? Not I! says the fly.
    Love you writing, Geoff.

  5. I do it by remembering that I want to get published, but if I don't I will still be doing something I love and leaving something amazing behind for my (someday in the future) family. When I realize no matter what happens the end result is good it is easier to forge ahead.

  6. GOOD LUCK lovely Elizabeth Mueller!!!! I am sending you waves and waves of support hugs with everything crossed!!!!! Yay for you!!!!!
    Take care

  7. you do the best you can and then you kiss it goodbye with a fare thee well.

  8. I just tell myself that it's as good as I can get it, and there is someone out there who will love it as much as I do. I also tell myself I can write another book, and another one if I have to. Just keep believing in yourself and you'll be alright.

    Good luck!! :D

  9. I'm going through the same thing myself at the moment! I've been working on my current manuscript a really LONG time and everytime I want to say I'm finished I start editing again. I think it's got to the point that I'm just stalling. Regections = not fun. At some point I guess you just have to go for it and see what happens.

    My advice: don't edit obsessively like I do. lol

  10. Flick him off your shoulder. You CAN do it!

  11. Just do the ad says. :-D

  12. I remind myself of why I write. Most times it's because a story must be told, and the characters won't let me go until they've had their say. Publish or not - the story must be told!

  13. just keep writing regardless and ignore the pesky bugger :))

  14. Submission is terrifying -- whether it is to an agent or to an editor. I think what empowers me to do it (in spite of dreading those "no's") is to understand that there can never be a "yes" if I don't.

  15. I remind myself that simply having a manuscript to submit puts me ahead, in the publication race, of most of the world population.

    And I slew a hundred such demons to get this far already, so one more is just another trophy to chalk up on the side of my laptop. Hasta la vista, baby!

  16. As I just read in a blog somewhere (I can't remember where now, wish I could!) the worst that can happen is that you don't get published, and as this blogger's professor told her, "I hate to tell you this, but you're already not published."

    Actually, I don't know if you're published or not... but the point is, there's really nothing you can lose! And you never know what you might miss if you don't try...

  17. Christine, wow! That's SO smart. I haven't thought about grabbing that demon and grilling him like that. Thanks for the idea, it brings things into perspective! *hugs*

    Murugi, thank you! You're right. It can be tough, especially when I feel like a tiny flea on such a huge dog. ;) Thank YOU for the follow, too! :D

    Trisha, well said. There are so many things that I have done in my life that I'm so glad I accepted the challenge, else I wouldn't be where I am today. Thank you! :)

    Geoff, that's true. It's like marriage: why did I get married to him to begin with? It was love love love! Not money or anything else. I need to keep my love of writing in perspective, being published is just a bonus. Thanks...

    Sierra, oh so true! Thanks for the reminder. <3

    Jennifer, you're such a sweetie. Thank you SO much! *Hugs*

    Mshatch, so true. I'll remember to be strong when the time comes. Thank you!

    Chantele, that's true. There's only so much I can humanly do. Thank you for your thoughts. :)

    Taryn! I'm SO there! Arg! I'm going nuts and it makes me feel lost. *sigh*

    Angie, lol! I'll do that! ;)

    Paul, sounds good to me! My mind is my worst enemy--yet it can be my best friend. Ugh...

    Ray, so true! Going back to the reason why I'm writing. It's the joy of the journey. I need to drill that into my head! :/

    Amphigora--lol! Thank you. :D

    Alex, good for you! I'll do the same thing. :)

    Dianne, oh, how wise! Thank you for the reminder. I'll have to post that on my laptop.

    Botanist, one more closer to the goal, right? Thank you for your insight!

    Lisa, I found the instructor's words amusing. That's so true, isn't it? I don't have novels published, but little things here and there. But it's my dream to see my book on the shelf. I know I can do it, I just feel as if I'm at the bottom of the ocean, watching wistfully at the rippling surface of the water way overhead and I keep getting snared by debris. :D Thanks for your encouragement! <3

  18. Don't worry. Self doubt is a part of the writer's diet.
    A lecturer of mine said that in writing her novel there was only one day she felt good about what she'd written.

  19. Everyone has that demon. I love the scene in the movie Naked Lunch where they argue over editing or not editing. We all have a demon but they whisper different things. The good news is this, if that's the demon doesn't that leave the possibility that you are the angel.

    Lazarus Lupin
    art and review

  20. Jack, wow, that's great! I love how you worded that. "Self doubt is part of the writer's diet". Thank you for dropping by and sharing your wealth!

    Lazarus, wow, you're so wonderful for that analogy. Thank you! :)

  21. You CAN do it! Best of luck! Dust that little devil off of your side :)

  22. Good luck, and take note of Japan. Life is too short to waste. Rise up and chase your dream! :)

  23. What if's plague me all the time and sometimes freeze me into a period of inaction. But, there comes that time when I have to kick that demon off my shoulder (and that's hard considering I have short, fat legs) and let the bodies hit the floor because inaction will get me no where. Best of luck with your submission, I wish you much success. You CAN do this.

  24. I think it's so hard to just leap out there. But you can do it, Lizzie. Hang in there!


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