Tuesday, May 18, 2010

Caught in the Web of Greed

Something I've been doing lately has me wondering. It seems that the more I'm given of something, the more I want. It isn't until I am consumed with wanting that I stop and realize that I need to reevaluate my gratitude. Then life becomes smoother.

What a wake up call.

This has happened with my writing, my friends, shoes.

Lately, yes, it sounds really trivial and I am ashamed to admit it, but I've found myself wanting more and more blog followers and sad when I don't have more every day. Now isn't that silly?

Then it hit me the other day. How sad that I don't appreciate the friends already there. How sad! I felt awful for taking you for granted and have since decided to quit obsessing.

I find the best way to keep myself in line is to always open my eyes to what I have and be happy with it.

How do you deal with life when things seem to get out of control?

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  1. I agree--it's easy to get caught up in things, and suck all the joy out. For me I find at least once a week I have to step back and look at where my focus has been and make sure it's really in the right place. Also--you have over 150 followers. You're doing awesome! :)

  2. Awww! I treat myself to something that I really like - chocolate or a nice book!

    You have 158 followers - and that's brilliant!! Well done you! Here's to more - and they will come - just be your gorgeous talented self.

    Good luck with your writing!

    take care

  3. You are absolutely right, good lady. I think I shall post some follower appreciation to my blog this week. Lovely idea!

  4. What a great thing to remember - being appreciative with what you have without always wanting more. I pretty much live by this code - now, to teach my kids to understand this.

  5. I know that feeling, and your so right! It is so important to be happy with what we have. You are terrific!

  6. Shannon, what a wonderful idea. To step back and evaluate my focus. It seems like a day-to-day thing in just about all I do aside from the blogging world--to apply my right focus to the right purposes. I wouldn't want my kids to think I didn't do anything else but blog once they are all grown up. Thank you for the reminder! :D

    Jennifer--thank you! I love the sound of chocolate and a good book. Thank you for your uplifting thoughts!!

    Simon, that sounds like a wonderful idea! I'd love to head over there and read what you say... :)

    Jaydee, that's such a wonderful thing to do and live by. You're such a fabulous mommy! :)

    Angie, thank you, you are wonderful yourself! :)

  7. So true! In ever aspect of my life I find it easy to get caught up in the more and ignore what I have.

    Thanks for the reminder!

  8. Suck all the joy out. Yes. I guess I'm trying to be careful about things that trigger me in ways that suck the joy out of the act of writing itself. Don't get down on yourself. I was doing the same thing with that Follower gadget. If you get an empty bag you try to fill it. It's just a natural thing, I think. I try to focus on why I'm doing a thing. I'm trying to focus on the bag. What is the "good" of it. The good of my blog is that it is a pleasure for me and I hope a pleasure to visitors who might drop by and to new buddies like you. I appreciate you and follow you because I do...appreciate you.

  9. Also, I don't think wanting Followers is a bad thing if that gets you going. If it encourages your joy of blogging/writing, why not? There are real crimes and sins and wanting more Followres may be outside those rings categorized under HARMLESS ACTS that you may or may not want to engage in. I'll shut up now. I've said too much already. You're tops!

  10. It is hard to recognize when things are getting out of balance but easy for imbalance to start. Shannon already suggested stepping away once a week, and I think it's a great idea. Once a week I do a "Step Out" with one of my kids. They get one-on-one time with Dad and I get to focus on them. Usually during that time away I can feel what things that are too heavy in my life (or, less often, light).

    One caveat: sometimes in an effort to balance the load we swing too far to a different side. That just moves the load from one side to another and leaves us imbalanced. Recalibrate like a compass and not a pendulum

    Sorry for the long post. You're probably doing a lot better than you think!

  11. Frankie, wow...that was so well said. I'm so very glad I found your blog. I really love your poetry, they are so straight from the heart. I miss writing poetry. I should try to get back into it. Thanks for the bag analogy, it is so true!

    Rich! How was writing group tonight? I was spending it with my fam and forgot. Thank you for dropping by and for the valuable thoughts and pendulum v. compass visual. I really like that. :) PS--I never ever mind a long comment, feel free to say whatever and however long you want to take! :)

  12. What a great post! It's easy to get caught up in it - I'll tell ya - not to make lite of it - but in your post you mention shoes and my eyes lit up! I'm always wanting more of those. LOL. Sorry. Being grateful for what we have is such a blessing. I'm grateful to be getting to know you. This blog thing is really new me, but I think you're great!

  13. RaShelle--you are the sweetest, thank you so much for your compliment. Boy, do I have to restrain myself when I see shoes I want. *Sigh... I just need a bigger closet. ;)

  14. You are not alone. I think we all need a wake up call from time to time, reminding us to focus on the good.

  15. Writing group was sparse, and I was late. There were a few people in a critique group, and then there was me. Not a great night but I was editing and it wasn't going well. Too many factors conspiring against me getting in a groove.

  16. Hi Julie, so true! I'm thinking that maybe an unplugged week may do me wonders?

    Rich! It's so frustrating when you can't get into the groove. I'm sorry to hear that. I love to bounce ideas around, I'm pretty good at jump starting writers into their way again if you ever want to get a hold of me??? I'll post my email address on your blog! :)


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